As parents, though, we can take matters into our hands and do what is best for them and get them help. But how do we deal with an adult family member with drug addictions? It is simple, just say no.
Now, we all know that is much easier to say something than do it, right? Well, actually it is not. Sometimes we become enablers by not saying no. We think if we give them money, they will not do something stupid when their cravings get out of hand. Being honest, that is something that lurks in the quiet recesses of our thoughts when we have an adult child on drugs. Fear that we are going to see them as suspects in an armed robbery, as the drunk driver of the vehicle in an accident that kills innocent people; fear that they will be arrested for domestic violence, that we will get a call they overdosed…
We can do an intervention and get our adult children, our adult siblings, our parents the help for their drug or alcohol addiction. We can be brutally yet lovingly honest with our siblings and let them know we are there for them and that they need the help now.
When our children get addicted and are minors, it is our duty and responsibility to get them help. However, we do it out of love. They made a mistake but they need our help. It is the same with adults too, in a way. We encourage they get help. Again, we do it out of love.
If someone has an adult family member who refuses to get help, do not let it be the end of your hope and your own life. If it is a relationship, it might be best to get out. If there are children involved, it is important to think about their best interests and safety and your own.
“Sometimes, by not allowing the adult family member with the drug addictions to take over everything, we end up getting them to see they do need help“
Help them accept responsibility by not picking up the pieces for them. Are they adults? Treat them as such. Tough love is sometimes the best way to go and with adult family members with drug addictions, most definitely so.